Getting over the wall.

-Note Proof-Reading pending, Please excuse any errors! (Edit: 3months later, never did any proof reading. Just, ignore it ok :P)

 In an endurance sport they have a term which is "Hitting the Wall" that is when you begin to feel greatly fatigued and have a loss in energy. This is caused by losing glycogen. Ok wait, I know I have probably lost you already but its alright. Hitting the wall is very much like life. Everyone hits it, the point where you feel you cant move on, total depression etc. Usually happens after a loss of someone you cared for. It is here you no longer have the drive to press on. Especially in the teen years, after break ups this tends to happen.

The same can be said for your spiritual walk, for those of you who believe. When you hit a wall, or a stumbling block in your walk, you tend to feel very distant from God, you wonder if your even saved. This is actually a very good thing because your actually putting thought of it and are aware of the issue at hand. The first step is admitting you have a problem :) then pray about it plenty. I know you've heard it before but seriously pray. God has a reason for everything, we just cant see it. While your at it, don't be afraid to start reading the Bible, maybe you will find an answer there! Or go seek out an elder in your church. Talk to your pastor, they should be willing to help! (However I cannot give a guarantee on this because sadly, humans are humans, and we all sin)

 For now lets go back to the wall we hit in life. When we hit this wall we no longer wanna move on, we feel the pain and the pressure wearing down on us. Our life seems, slow, sad, depressing and maybe pointless even! However much like a runner on a long endurance run we have to press forward, overcome all the obstacles. If we do life will be so much sweeter in the end. You as a person, no matter your age, no matter your sex, no matter your personal life, have so much potential you couldn't use it all in numerous lifetimes. When the runner, finishes his/her's race the reward is so much more than a shiny medal. It's the experience. Life is an experience, waiting for you to choose how you wish to experience it. You could, give up and be the runner who gained nothing, or you could keep going and be the runner who won it all.

The Reason....

  Christmas is today, rather was today. Anyways, I'm here to apologize for not updating my blog lately...or like ever :P. In the last few months. I've been pretty busy, playing football and now basketball, along with school and other activities. That and I've been rather lazy, which i suppose at the very least at least I will admit it. I do enjoy writing in here and hope to continue onward in the upcoming months, but please bear with me :)


 So real quick I'll leave you with a little thought that I had at out kitchen table tonight.

 We all sat down to eat Christmas dinner tonight, when dad decided to ask the kids, what the reason for Christmas was. They all answered the preschool, church-child default answer..."JESUS". He proceeded to ask what Jesus did for us. "He...um He died on the cross...for our sins" replied the 3yr old. I was highly impressed. He's only 3yrs old and he already knows more about Jesus, and why He's so important than most people ever will. He knows exactly why Jesus came, He came to save us from our sins, so that "whoever believes in him shall not perish but have eternal life." (John 3:16). This led to the next question dad had to offer. "Why do we want to go to heaven?" In which the 6yr old promptly answers "CUZ THERE'S GOLD DUH". After some laughing he was corrected. However why do we want to go to heaven? Whats the driving factor for you? Is it the fear of hell? The Bible says so? The fear of there being no afterlife so you believe in Heaven and want to go there just to make you feel better? Whatever your reason is I believe we should want to go to heaven so that we can be with our Father the Lord, God our great creator! We should be longing to be with Him. Now please do not make the mistake for one second that this is how I feel. However I do believe its how I should feel, but I'm just as guilty as anyone. But this is the real reason, the real reason we should want to go to Heaven. God should be enough for us to want to go, not fear of hell, not because the Bible says so, not because of gold. Because we want to be with Him.

That was just a quick little post I wanted to make. Hopefully I'll be making more sooner than before. Until then....PEACE

Dating...the wrong way.

Dating now a days is a joke. Literally I laugh at the thought. Its been twisted from what it should be. Dating use to be taken as something sacred, now it is little more than a day to day thing for some people. Dating has become all about pleasure. Be it physical, or mental pleasure it has truly become pleasure oriented. Gone are the days when dating was worth something, had true meaning. In today society, I personally would say that dating has become more of a social status, less of a true feeling.

Today, society tells teens all about the pleasure that comes with dating. The emotional side, but especially the physical side. Television shows, movies, even literature, tells you all about this physical joy that comes with dating. Please do not buy in! I beg you, the physical side of the relationship must be held out to marriage! The physical side, is meant only for you and your spouse. If a guy is to sleep with his girlfriend, he is taking away a lot from her, that belongs to her husband. Same goes for a girl, if she sleeps with a man, she is taking away a lot from his future wife. What you take, when you indulge in the physical side of things, is not yours to take. Also it just morally is wrong. Sadly, very few see it this way in the modern day we live in. So many are sucked in, by the greed they have to take away what is not theirs to take. Do not, you are both stealing and committing adultery.

 Now what about the lesser physical side, such as kissing. In this case I don't see too much wrong with kissing. HOWEVER, i do believe that kissing needs to wait until you are mature, in your relationship. I mean wait till your getting serious, and are on the path toward marriage. I understand not everyone is going to agree with me on this, and honestly it is easier said than done. However I do believe that you should wait, but this isn't as pressing of a matter as what I stated above. Just do consider that you should wait till your older, because again you are indulging in the physical side of things.


So if not dating right away then what? Friendship! I know everyone tells you "don't get in that "friend-zone". But this isn't true, the best relationships come from friendships. This is how you should get to know the person of interest! Become their friend, find what common ground you have, and get to know their personality. Do not go into the friendship with the mentality of  "Id like to date you" because then you are hardly doing better than regular dating. Go into it with an open mind, of truly wanting to know the person better.


I just want to leave you with a few thoughts. Some are mine and some are from the book "I kissed dating goodbye" by Joshua Harris

1. Dating creates an artificial environment. (Joshua)
2.Dating tends to skip the friendship stage(Joshua+ as I stated above isnt good)
3.Dating is not all about the physical aspect.
4.Dating should be you going on the road for marriage.

I know not all of you agree with what I say here. But I do hope I at least made you think about it a little. I hope I successfully put the stone in your shoe and that you keep thinking about this. Please steer clear from the physical side, enjoy the true beauty of friendship with your special one. Friendship, leads to the road of true partnership.

Peer Pressure

Peer pressure is a nasty concept every teen has to deal with. It eats away at us every time we are around our friends. We wish to be accepted by our friends. What are we to do when people pressure us or tell us we should do something. Well three things come to mind for me.
 1.Consider is it glorifying to God.
2.Is.it what our parents would want?
3.Is it really who we are. Or are we changing for others.

 Number 3. Describes what comes from giving into peer pressure. We change who we are and become different. Staying true to yourself will make life far less confusing because if you give into different pressures your bound to have split personalities. Split personalities are both good and bad. The good kind is when you are changing to be respectful to someone. The bad kind is when you are changing to impress someone. 2.Is a good point of reference for situations. 9/10 times if your parents say its wrong it probably is. Just ask the question if mom or dad was standing right here would I do or say to this? 1.Is the most important of them all. Is it glorifying to God. This one is by far the hardest to follow. We all know this from our life walks. I don't feel that I need to go into anymore detail. Except to those who don't believe. I say this is hard because we all know that we sin. We will always fall short of God. Because He is perfect and we are imperfect. But don't let this discourage you. We should still try to model our lives like God tells us to.

 Now that you know what you should be thinking when your feeling pressured what exactly do you say. Well when it comes to things such as drugs. My dad always said tell them that if my dad or mom ever caught me doing this I would be in so much trouble you have no idea I'm not even going to risk it. My dad always told me to blame it on him and to walk away. The best advice I can give to you is that you need to talk to your parents about what you should say. I know that many of you are worried about what others think about you and I am too. But remember that real friends will stick by you to the end no matter how different from the average crowd you are. Real friends will stick by you to the end. Those friends that abandon you for being different from the rest of the crowd aren't your real friends. To end this post I just wanna say remember the 3things I told you about. Talk to your parents about what to do when your feeling peer pressured and lastly remember your real friends will stick with you to the end. It's a rough world out there that pressures you to do so many things that are wrong. Do not give into their lies stay true to yourself!

The Great Unknown

  Your life....is the great unknown. This is especially true during the teen years. You have no idea what lies ahead of you. You may think you know...but trust me something won't play out the way you planned it.

  Our lives are not meant to be planned out by us. Our plans are not perfect, our plans frequently fail. There is only One who can plan out your life and trust me He has everything perfectly laid out.

  In times of pain and sorrow you may feel alone...and question why God has this for you. A very common statement is "Lord why did you do this to me." Or more briefly "Why Lord Why." This is a very common question that I can pretend to have an answer to but I don't. I'm not the Lord so I don't even have business answering this. However I'm not going to leave you with that. My silly excuse for an answer to this impossible question is "God has a perfect reason for this, but we are imperfect therefore we cannot see it" That may not seem encouraging but trust me it is. It may sound strange to hear but death of loved ones happens for a reason. Trials happen for a reason. All of the things you experience in your life happen to grow you as a person. You mature each step of the way. God does things to make you stop think and grow. That to me is encouraging.

  For those of you who don't believe in God or for those of you who currently don't think God is helping you by presenting a trial. I ask that you go back to all the trials in your life and you figure out something good that you can learn from it. Then for those that don't believe I ask please tell me why you think the trial wasn't planned by Someone of higher knowledge. If you cannot learn anything from your own trials then your not trying hard enough. I can assure you that you can find something to learn.

I'm going to use an example.to back up my theory. As a child we all do naughty things. When our parents catch us we get in trouble. What happens when we get in trouble for the first time? We learn. There are multiple things we can learn.

A.Mom and Dad don't like what I did.
B.If I do it I get in trouble.
C.Much much more.

See even something as simple as that we still learn things. All of this to say God plans out your life to us it is the great unknown. But take comfort in the fact that it will play out exactly as its suppose to. That to me is all the encouragement I need to press on.

Forgiveness (Random Personal Thought)

Forgiveness usually comes when someone has been wronged. Forgiving someone comes after they say sorry, right? Well not exactly. For me anyways, forgiveness should always be given despite what the person says. For example if someone wrongs you but doesn't say sorry or ask for forgiveness. You should still go back and forgive them. Personally if I am wronged, and the situation has cooled down I will go back and say I know what happened ,but I just want you to know I forgive you.

There is a good kind of forgiveness without sorry or asking, and there is a bad kind. Let me give you an example.

"I forgive you even though you won't say sorry to me"
-This is one of the many bad ways. Do not make yourself look superior. Because then you become the jerk and just fuel the already tense relationship with said person.

"I know what happened, and I just want to tell you I'm sorry for when I was mad. I want you to know I'm not mad anymore and I forgive you for what was done will you forgive me for my anger?"
-This in my opinion is a good way of forgiving someone without them saying sorry. It doesn't make you look better. You admit you were wrong too, and you still forgave them in a loving way.

Forgiveness can be hard to give. But Jesus commands us to, even if we don't want to.How can we ask God to forgive us when we won't forgive our brothers and sisters.Matthew 6:14-16 
For if you forgive men when they sin against you, your heavenly Father will also forgive you. But if you do not forgive men their sins, your Father will not forgive your sins

 We are to forgive again and again. Matthew 18:21-22 
Then Peter came to Jesus and asked, "Lord, how many times shall I forgive my brother when he sins against me? Up to seven times?" Jesus answered, "I tell you, not seven times, but seventy-seven times. 

This is saying that we need to forgive them again and again till this life on earth ends. We are to forgive them until it is settled in our hearts. We must remember that as God forgave us we must forgive them no matter what. Just as God forgave us by His Son's death on the cross.

Gold (Personal Thoughts)

Men, young men, old men I don't care. Single or not, look I'm noticing a trend. Guys just aren't all that respectful to women anymore. I mean don't get me wrong, some men are, to those of you I speak of, I give you man points. However I am talking to many, teenage guys. Girls become toys, how many girls and how hot they are seems to be what makes you cool. I don't agree with this at all! (Just as a side note, girls we aren't toys either so don't think your off the hook)

We need to treat girls/women like they are gold, because really they are. Think about it, gold is valuable, special, rare, and beautiful. If you think about it this very basically sums up certain girls. The right girls will be valuable to you, special, rare and beautiful. Don't be fooled by all the fools gold out there, it is without value, it isn't special, its certainly not rare, and while it may appear beautiful, deep down its worthless.

So when you find your gold, what should you do? Well for me I would treat my gold with great respect. Remember the gold and land isn't yours until you have staked your claim, or in other words until you have married her. So be respectful of the beautiful gold you have.

I would also be sure to keep the gold and not go searching for other gold nuggets. Guys do not cheat on your girlfriends, don't flirt with other girls, it isn't right. You need to keep to your gold nugget. Don't even look at them. You may have heard you can look but don't touch. Well if you really love your gold, you won't need to look at the other gold floating in the stream.

Smelt your gold, into a gold bar. This is my cheesy way of leading into gifts. Make your gold nugget a gold bar. Make her happy guys, give her gifts. I would personally frequently send flowers! I mean girls love flowers guys its a proven fact, every day its proven.

I'm still looking for my gold nugget. One day I will find her, and she will be treated like gold, this isn't meant to make me look good though. This is meant for men to have a reminder of how we should treat women. So I'm going to treat mine like gold? How bout you hmm?

(Note to the girls: Please treat us guys very much like this too. Especially if we are being respectful like started above. Don't take advantage of us, or else I would classify you in the fools gold, department. All the foolish men will love you, the wise man will turn from you. Plus we treat you with respect its only right you give it to us back)