Dating now a days is a joke. Literally I laugh at the thought. Its been twisted from what it should be. Dating use to be taken as something sacred, now it is little more than a day to day thing for some people. Dating has become all about pleasure. Be it physical, or mental pleasure it has truly become pleasure oriented. Gone are the days when dating was worth something, had true meaning. In today society, I personally would say that dating has become more of a social status, less of a true feeling.
Today, society tells teens all about the pleasure that comes with dating. The emotional side, but especially the physical side. Television shows, movies, even literature, tells you all about this physical joy that comes with dating. Please do not buy in! I beg you, the physical side of the relationship must be held out to marriage! The physical side, is meant only for you and your spouse. If a guy is to sleep with his girlfriend, he is taking away a lot from her, that belongs to her husband. Same goes for a girl, if she sleeps with a man, she is taking away a lot from his future wife. What you take, when you indulge in the physical side of things, is not yours to take. Also it just morally is wrong. Sadly, very few see it this way in the modern day we live in. So many are sucked in, by the greed they have to take away what is not theirs to take. Do not, you are both stealing and committing adultery.
Now what about the lesser physical side, such as kissing. In this case I don't see too much wrong with kissing. HOWEVER, i do believe that kissing needs to wait until you are mature, in your relationship. I mean wait till your getting serious, and are on the path toward marriage. I understand not everyone is going to agree with me on this, and honestly it is easier said than done. However I do believe that you should wait, but this isn't as pressing of a matter as what I stated above. Just do consider that you should wait till your older, because again you are indulging in the physical side of things.
So if not dating right away then what? Friendship! I know everyone tells you "don't get in that "friend-zone". But this isn't true, the best relationships come from friendships. This is how you should get to know the person of interest! Become their friend, find what common ground you have, and get to know their personality. Do not go into the friendship with the mentality of "Id like to date you" because then you are hardly doing better than regular dating. Go into it with an open mind, of truly wanting to know the person better.
I just want to leave you with a few thoughts. Some are mine and some are from the book "I kissed dating goodbye" by Joshua Harris
1. Dating creates an artificial environment. (Joshua)
2.Dating tends to skip the friendship stage(Joshua+ as I stated above isnt good)
3.Dating is not all about the physical aspect.
4.Dating should be you going on the road for marriage.
I know not all of you agree with what I say here. But I do hope I at least made you think about it a little. I hope I successfully put the stone in your shoe and that you keep thinking about this. Please steer clear from the physical side, enjoy the true beauty of friendship with your special one. Friendship, leads to the road of true partnership.
